Breastfeeding is something I was always desperate to achieve. When you feel like you have had zero control over getting pregnant and then had a higher risk pregnancy- all you want to do is something that is completely natural. I had previously breastfed my son until 6 months but it had to come to an abrupt end as I needed to start fertility treatment again. I say needed, it was my choice as I wanted a close age gap and I was scared about it taking a long time the next time. Looking back I think I was crazy starting so soon but at the time it felt right.
Things that helped me successfully feed two babies:
1. Feeding around the clock. I had a babe on the boob nearly the whole time. I knew this wouldn't last and I knew this is what they needed. They need it for comfort, for skin to skin, for my milk supply and for their nutrition.
2. Letting them sleep on the boob and letting them wake for the next "let down" knowing that if they fell asleep once, twice, three times and just fed as and when that this was OK. I would put on Netflix for Arlo, get all the toys, snacks and know that having two feeding and sleeping on me was OK.
3. In the evenings, my husband put Arlo to bed and I fed the girls, Tandem feeding using cushions on the sofa worked for me the best- no breastfeeding cushion worked. I would have a babe on each boob and then they would be milk drunk to sleep next to me while I watched TV ready to go to bed and as I called it every night "into battle."
4. At night we had the boob train. All aboard...well all aboard or wait your turn to board. Tandem at night wasn't my thing. I laydown and fed them while my husband held the other and we alternated until we could get some sleep.
5. I ate everything in sight and meals- we kept simple.
6. We have no village and that is OK- it is still very doable if you work together.
7. As the months progressed I followed the needs of the girls- so they still feed whenever and wherever. Now, they feed four times a day maximum with big feeds morning and night. Morning we take it in turns and feed lying down for a clam big feed. Night times a long tandem feed. In the day a quick snack feed really.
8. Xanthe sleeps through and Paloma still wakes to feed maybe 3 sometimes 4 times a night but sometimes only once or twice. This is completely normal of course and we all know this time will pass again.
9. I express at work. So I use a manual on one boob and a silicone pump on the other and it works brilliantly.
10. 10 months on...how long will it continue. Well for me personally, I plan to keep feeding for as long as possible. i would like to think we will be continuing past their 2nd birthday but for now, as always, I follow the babies' leads because that is the true path to a successful feeding journey.